Get your Girlfriend Back

If you've ever wondered why your ex won't return your calls, or why she won't agree to meet up for old times' sake, you could be approaching the whole situation subjectively. You're acting on pure instinct and your feeling of guilt or remorse will not let you leave your ex alone. You keep calling and pestering her, justifying your actions as 'persistent', and she keeps running away.

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Before she changes her number for good, or moves out of the city, heed the following tips on how to get a girlfriend back before it's too late.

1. Use Reverse Psychology

First, let's get one thing out of your system. Yes, women can be be complicated and they sometimes say what they don't mean. Now that you understand that clearly, let's look at it from another angle. What if she is messed up emotionally herself? She doesn't know which direction to take because you're hounding her and she is getting stifled. Try this one trick to handling a stubborn ex: give her space. If she cannot hear you explain your side, you will keep her guessing. Soon she will be wondering what you're thinking, and will probably wring her hands over your apparent apathy. Turning the tables on her will work, if used cleverly.

2. Flirt with her but keep your distance

If you look back on how you got her in the first place, you will realize that being needy is not the way to her heart. You can flirt with her, but keep the interaction open-ended. Make it clear that it's still her choice whether or not to go out with you again. Also, make her realize that you're still the flirt that she met a long time ago. Treat her like you would a girl you want to woo, and not as the ex that you desperately want back.

3. Use Jealousy

This technique can be very powerful. She might claim she doesn't feel anything for you anymore, but once you trigger her jealousy, you will access her emotional treasure trove of old feelings for you once again. Note, however, that this method should be used with caution. Abusing it could kill your chances, and using it frivolously for your pride's sake could lead to more harm than good.

While you're learning the various ways to get a girlfriend back, always remember your girl could be testing you. Your job is not to fall for the tests. Just dodge her questions, and don't let her goad you into telling her whether you're dating again or not. If she asks you to do small favors like take her laundry out, or buy stuff for her, just ignore her. The last thing you need right now is to get stuck in the friend zone, so heed this warning.